Keep Your Thoughts and Prayers. They’re Useless.

Do Something Worthwhile Instead.

I can’t imagine the unbearable pain that these parents feel. The idea of losing a child is soul-crushing.

Seventeen families are experiencing that debilitating loss right now. Parents who have to go home and look at an empty bedroom. Who will only be able to imagine the future that’s been stolen from their child.

Another heartbreaking story of senseless violence. And what do we do about it?

We offer our thoughts and prayers.

Seventeen families going through agony. Seventeen lives cut short.

And the best we can offer is our thoughts and prayers.


To hell with thoughts and prayers.

If thoughts and prayers are all we’re willing to offer, we need to ask ourselves how much we really care. We need to ask whether those thoughts and prayers are meant to help others or just make ourselves feel better.

We offer thoughts and prayers when we’re not willing to do anything else. It’s the standard line when we don’t care enough to inconvenience ourselves for more than the amount of time it takes to type in 140 characters.

I don’t want to argue whether this is the eighth or first incident this year. It doesn’t matter. Either way, it’s too many.

What matters is we continue to offer thoughts and prayers, but don’t care enough to make a change.

We say that it’s a terrible tragedy, but there’s no way to prevent it. Yet other countries seem to prevent it just fine.

We say it’s a shame, but there’s nothing we can do. Yet we can do something. We can always do something.

So do something now. Get involved. It’s today or it’s nothing. Because tomorrow you’ll have moved onto something else. And we’ll just be left with your thoughts and prayers.

Call your representative and let them know you support better gun control. This does have an impact. Find who represents you in Congress here.

Donate to a gun reform group. There’s many groups at the national, state, and local level that are doing great work. Research them and find one that suits you.

Educate yourself on gun control opportunities. We don’t need more rants. We need informed, rational discussions.

Research local gun reform chapters and join one whose values you share.

Research and support politicians who favor common sense gun control. Politicians want votes and money. Make sure yours goes to one that’s worthwhile.

Vote for people who will make a change. Encourage others to do the same. Less than a third of Americans vote in non-Presidential elections. This needs to improve.

Understand how your elected officials vote and hold them accountable. I wouldn’t have thought that steps to keep violent criminals from obtaining guns would be beyond the abilities of our elected representatives. If this doesn’t represent our views, I guess we should start asking why they’re our elected representatives.

Change isn’t going to come with our thoughts and prayers. Just as it won’t come with a series of online rants and right-wing directed profanity.

Change comes through action. It comes through consequences felt in the real world.

So quit whining about your thoughts and prayers and do something.

Start today. Do something. Don’t let up.

Find a group. Donate to a cause. Call your representative. Do something.

Or don’t. But then keep your thoughts and prayers to yourself.

Writing helps me realize just how little I know.

Writing helps me realize just how little I know.