How to Network When You Hate Networking

No More Schmoozing

Add Depth to Your Existing Relationships

“Networking is more about farming than it is about hunting.” — Ivan Misner

Many of us have strong relationships with those we see daily and weekly, but we also have a whole host of others that we’ve lost contact with over the years.

“One of the challenges in networking is everybody thinks it’s making cold calls to strangers. Actually, it’s the people who already have strong trust relationships with you, who know you’re dedicated, smart, a team player, who can help you.

Look for Connections Every Day

“Networking is rubbish; have friends instead.” — Steve Winwood

You meet new people every day. Yet few of these interactions result in meaningful connections.

Cultivate an Abundance Mindset

“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want,” said Zig Ziglar. And yet, too much networking advice neglects this basic truth.

“It’s not about finding great people, it’s about becoming a great person.”

Success comes from an abundance mindset. And reciprocity happens on a macro scale, not within every relationship.

“True networking does not mean meeting people; it means becoming the type of person other people want to meet.”

Stop Networking. And Start Building Relationships.

“If you want 1 year of prosperity, grow grain. If you want 10 years of prosperity, grow trees. If you want 100 years of prosperity, grow people.” — Chinese Proverb

In 1938, Harvard started a study to track the lives of men at both Harvard and throughout inner city Boston. What began with 724 men, expanded over the years to include their wives and over 2000 children.

“The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.”

The results repeatedly showed that those who prioritized developing and strengthening relationships lived happier and healthier lives. Through varying levels of fame and fortune, the one constant component for a good life was good relationships.

Enemy of the Status Quo.

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