Great Leaders Don’t Let Their Teams Complain

Jake Wilder
5 min readJun 22, 2022

The Next Time People Do It, Try This Instead

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Here’s the problem: it feels really good to complain.

Someone does something that upsets us. We’re frustrated and we’re angry. Those emotions build up and they need somewhere to go. Complaining is an easy, low-risk way to vent those feelings. It lets us release all of that uncomfortable energy without having to actually deal with the issue in front of us. We’re upset and it makes us feel better.

When we complain to people who agree with us (and who doesn’t?), it validates our position. We get support and comfort from others. We can avoid the discomfort of introspection and satisfy ourselves with commiserating over the unfairness of it all.

Complaining feels good. It’s why we do it. That’s the problem.

The bigger problem, of course, is that it never really solves anything. Not only does it waste time, but it lets us avoid dealing with our problems. It chases short-term relief at the expense of a long-term solution.

Great leaders know this, and they stop the cycle before it begins.

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